piece by piece, petal by petal

we are all so quick to forget that each and every single one of us, is human. we all go through the same little and big and exciting and confusing things. no matter how similar or different the situations may be, the foundations are always the same. the basic foundations of human emotion and human reaction. however, we also all can't seem to remember that we are in fact not being singled out just because we are who we are. the same feelings can be felt by other people. so why don't we ever stop to think to consider all the sides to why some people are the way they are. do the things they do. or even feel the way they feel. why do we react and lash out and judge people because of how they decide to handle something differently then we would have. or when they decide to handle something the exact way we did, that we know wasn't favorable - yet we still hold them to a higher standard than we hold our own selves. instead, we should be focused on ourselves. no, not in the selfish all consuming way. in the healthy and proactive way. by being focused on who you are. how you feel. what you do. how you affect other people. how you affect yourself. how you allow others to affect you. you think it would be easy to not be involved in other peoples ways of going about their lives. but instead we convince ourselves that somehow, someone else can build up or break down all the foundation that you built up without them, by the way they live their lives next to ours. which just is not the case. no matter how intertwined you may feel. because these relationships are not permeant. they are an every day choice, and sometimes people choose to change their minds..even when relationships are placed on a pedestal and bring you happiness through friendships and relationships and family, they are not the end all of all things when they don't work out as planned. people will come and go. this will hurt. this will feel wrong. this will be hard. but the human heart is resilient. loving and growing is so much more natural than hating and hurting. piece by piece, petal by petal - we learn to grow and mend the broken parts of ourselves that were damaged through the storms we endure season after season. you will always weather well, even through the floods and draughts that can feel like the end of the world. the truth is, you are entirely up to yourself. no one else is. and no one else is up to you. you can only do so much.